“You’re not thinking about suicide, are you?” OR, “You’re not thinking about doing something stupid, are you?”
- Don’t ask in a way that indicates you want “No” for an answer.
“Fine! If you want to be selfish and kill yourself then go right ahead! See if I care.”
- Don’t tell the person to do it. You may want to shout in frustration or anger, but this is the most dangerous thing you can say.
Don’t Say: “Don’t worry, I won’t tell anyone. Your secret is safe with me.”
- Don’t promise secrecy. The person may say that they don’t want you to tell anyone that they are suicidal.Say this instead: “I care about you too much to keep a secret like this. You need help and I am here to help you get it.”You may be concerned that they will be upset with you, but when someone’s life is at risk, it is more important to ensure their safety.
For more information on what to say and not to say please visit suicideispreventable.org